Book - Chapter - Belong
[TOC] Book - Chapter - Belong
-- 2020 06 19 - 1801 - iteration 01
Everyone wants to be part of a group - on their own terms.
When you're young, you adopt the terms of others.
Maybe you want to emulate your father or your mother.
The terms then are often mimicry of those you adore.
Maybe you want to sneak a drink or cigarette with your friends or watch a football game.
The terms might be to mimic those you respect.
Hopefully, as you get older, you have more of a voice in the terms.
The terms might be to be respected for your accomplishments.
Thus, on some level, by belonging to a group (or a person) you are offering someone an opportunity to create a kind of home for you.
What if you have a moral obligation to be overly kind / gentle with those who provide you a home?
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some additional thoughts:
- Most homes don't require brick or mortar - which is good because a home can outlast a house
- You can always leave a home - a true home will nurture you
- The hardest part of this kind of intimacy is intentionally and mindfully letting others choose terms
-- 2020 06 19 - 1801 - iteration 01
Everyone wants to be part of a group - on their own terms.
When you're young, you adopt the terms of others.
Maybe you want to emulate your father or your mother.
The terms then are often mimicry of those you adore.
Maybe you want to sneak a drink or cigarette with your friends or watch a football game.
The terms might be to mimic those you respect.
Hopefully, as you get older, you have more of a voice in the terms.
The terms might be to be respected for your accomplishments.
Thus, on some level, by belonging to a group (or a person) you are offering someone an opportunity to create a kind of home for you.
What if you have a moral obligation to be overly kind / gentle with those who provide you a home?
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some additional thoughts:
- Most homes don't require brick or mortar - which is good because a home can outlast a house
- You can always leave a home - a true home will nurture you
- The hardest part of this kind of intimacy is intentionally and mindfully letting others choose terms
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